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2011-11-09

New Empathy Closing Technique

New Empathy Closing Technique
New Empathy Closing Technique

Empathy as a closing technique can be a powerful tool in your jewelry selling arsenal.

This approach can be used throughout your presentation to overcome objections in a non-confrontational way.

The essence of the technique comes down to being willing to look at the objection from the client’s point of view.

The classic reference to this is called “Feel, Felt, Found”.

 

An example would be:

“I know how you feel. I felt the same way when I bought my wife’s engagement ring.

What I found was that it was easier than I thought with the right jeweler.”

 

The typical method of teaching this technique is to role-play the phrasing of the three keywords over and over until it becomes second nature to the associate.

The problem is that anytime you repeat a memorized closing technique it sounds disingenuous.

Empathy only becomes a powerful closing approach when your client sincerely believes you understand their point of view.

You will never reach that point with a canned 1980’s era sales technique.

 

Clients today have heard the “Feel, Felt, Found” approach so many times that they distrust it the moment they hear it rolling off your lips.

The empathy closing technique needs to be brought into this decade.

 

Where the classic approach falls short is in the first sentence. “I know how you feel.”

Seriously isn’t that a bit presumptuous on our part?

Look, there are days I don’t even know how I feel about a product/subject / or a loved one.

Now we have a total stranger telling me they know how I feel?

Don’t even go there because you lose credibility instantly.

 

The classic empathy closing technique becomes relevant again if you drop the “Feel” portion.

Consider this example:

You are selling a tourmaline ring set in platinum.

The client says, “That price is too expensive!”

A new empathetic closing technique would be, “Some of my best clients have “felt” the same way initially.

When they “found” out that it is a rare Paraiba tourmaline from Brazil they quickly saw the value of the gem.”

 

See the difference?

You empathized with the price objection with the first sentence and flowed straight into a training opportunity.

The client knows you heard their objection of the price but also found out why the price is higher than a regular tourmaline.

An empathy close can still be an important closing technique for a jewelry sales professional.

Making that emotional connection is part of what separates a clerk from “their friend in the jewelry business”.

Make a stronger connection with your clients with an updated, new empathy closing technique.

 

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  • Elle HIll - Founder and CEO of Hill & Co
  • #Lend Your Voice to the WJA
  • Dr. April Hayward - Diamond Producers Association Total Clarity Report
  • Atlanta Jewelry Show - Live Spring 2019
  • Georgia Jewelers Association Convention - Recorded Live
  • Jewelers Vigilance Committee - U.S. State Department Gets Tough On Sourcing
  • Liz Stamm - Director of Business Development for Virtual Diamond Boutique
  • Shane O'Neill - Vice President of Fruchtman Marketing
  • Ben Janowski - Janos Consultants, Pt 2
  • Ben Janowski - Founder of Janos Consulting
  • Yancy Weinrich - Senior Vice President of Reed Exhibitions
  • Mark Hanna - CMO Richline Group
  • Susan Wheeler - Jewelry Designer & Founder of the Chicago Jewelry Conference
  • Monica Stephenson - President of Anza Gems & iDazzle
  • Toby Pomeroy - Mercury-Free Mining Challenge
  • Avi Krawitz - Senior Analyst & News Editor, Rapaport Group
  • Jewelers Vigilance Committee - 2018 FTC Jewelry Guides
  • A.J. Tosyali - President of Benchmark Wedding Rings
  • David Bonaparte - President of Jewelers of America
  • Drew Lawsky - Show Director of Emerald Expositions Jewelry Group
  • Edahn Golan - Diamond Research, Analysis & Data
  • Brandee Dallow - President Fine Girl Luxury Brand Building & Communication
  • Kate Peterson - Performance Concepts Inc
  • Peter Smith - President of VIBHOR & Author of "Hiring Squirrels"
  • Marion Fasel - Founder of The Adventurine Magazine
  • Sally Morrison - 2018 GEM Award for Lifetime Achievement
  • Danielle Miele - Gem Gossip
  • Becky Stone - Diamonds in the Library
  • Aleah Arundale - Jewelers Helping Jewelers Facebook Group
  • Tiffany Stevens - CEO of Jewelers Vigilance Committee
  • Beth Bernstein - Bejeweled Magazine & Plan B Consulting
  • Brother Wolf Jewelry
  • Anish Desai - Star Gems & Custom Studio
  • Andie Weinman - CEO of Preferred Jewelers International
  • Brian Watkins - CEO of Ritani
  • Jimmy DeGroot - The Jewelry Marketing Guy & Jewelry Store Training
  • Embee Diamond Technologies - Sirius Star The World’s Brightest Diamond
  • Laura Stanley - Cutting The Esperanza Diamond At Stanley Jewelers Gemologist
  • Mike Botha - Cutting The Esperanza Diamond – Embee Diamond Technologies
  • Diane Robinson - Rough To Runway Huntress Jewelry Designer
  • Todd Reed - Raw Elegance Jewelry Designer
  • Pamela Froman - Get Crushed Jewelry Designer
  • Ron LeBlanc - The Gem Hunter Chronicles of Tanzania
  • Victoria Gomelsky - Editor-In-Chief of JCK Magazine
  • Linda Carlson - Author of “Advertising with Small Budgets for Big Results”
  • Matthew Perosi - CEO of Jewelers Website Advisory Group & Sapphire Collaborative
  • Ron LeBlanc of “Gem Hunt” on the Travel Channel Network
  • Marty Hurwitz - CEO of MVI Marketing
  • Live From JCK Talks 2015 Education Day
  • Trace Shelton - INDESIGN Magazine Editor-In-Chief
  • Peg Fitzpatrick - “The Art of Social Media: Power Tips for Power Users”
  • Jon Parker - DJP Executive Jewelry Search Consultant
  • Barbara Palumbo - Gumuchian Jewelry and Adornmentality.com Blog
  • Bryan Eisenberg - “Waiting for Your Cat to Bark? Persuading Customers When They Ignore Marketing”
  • Bryan Eisenberg - IdealSpot.com, “Buyer Legends. The Executive’s Storytelling Guide”
  • Paco Underhill - “What Women Want. The Science of Female Shopping”
  • Live from the JA New York Summer show
  • Rob Bates - Senior Editor of JCK Magazine
  • Laura Stanley of Stanley Jewelers Gemologist - AGS International Guild, Women’s Jewelry Assoc, & Jewelers for Children Charity
  • Chuck Goedtke - President of Swiss Brands, Inc - Internet Discounting & Do You Really Need To Carry Watches?
  • Matthew Tratner - Director of Membership and Sales for Jewelers of America
  • Michelle Graff of National Jeweler - Brands vs Non Brands, Jewelry With A Cause, & 10x Blog
  • Matt Stuller - Legendary C.E.O. of Stuller Inc
  • Interview with Doug Meadows of David Douglas Jewelers
  • Launching “Inside the Jewelry Trade” Online Radio Show
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Rod Worley

The host of “Inside the Jewelry Trade” Radio Show – Jewelry Business Strategist –  President of Four Grainer LLC.  Author of the business books “A Reason To Chant,” and “A Reason to Chant – Jewelry Trade Edition.”  Rod lives in Atlanta with his wife and two almost-human cats.

Article by Rod Worley / Sell Now!

All Of Our Episodes

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  • Elle HIll - Founder and CEO of Hill & Co
  • #Lend Your Voice to the WJA
  • Dr. April Hayward - Diamond Producers Association Total Clarity Report
  • Atlanta Jewelry Show - Live Spring 2019
  • Georgia Jewelers Association Convention - Recorded Live
  • Jewelers Vigilance Committee - U.S. State Department Gets Tough On Sourcing
  • Liz Stamm - Director of Business Development for Virtual Diamond Boutique
  • Shane O'Neill - Vice President of Fruchtman Marketing
  • Ben Janowski - Janos Consultants, Pt 2
  • Ben Janowski - Founder of Janos Consulting
  • Yancy Weinrich - Senior Vice President of Reed Exhibitions
  • Mark Hanna - CMO Richline Group
  • Susan Wheeler - Jewelry Designer & Founder of the Chicago Jewelry Conference
  • Monica Stephenson - President of Anza Gems & iDazzle
  • Toby Pomeroy - Mercury-Free Mining Challenge
  • Avi Krawitz - Senior Analyst & News Editor, Rapaport Group
  • Jewelers Vigilance Committee - 2018 FTC Jewelry Guides
  • A.J. Tosyali - President of Benchmark Wedding Rings
  • David Bonaparte - President of Jewelers of America
  • Drew Lawsky - Show Director of Emerald Expositions Jewelry Group
  • Edahn Golan - Diamond Research, Analysis & Data
  • Brandee Dallow - President Fine Girl Luxury Brand Building & Communication
  • Kate Peterson - Performance Concepts Inc
  • Peter Smith - President of VIBHOR & Author of "Hiring Squirrels"
  • Marion Fasel - Founder of The Adventurine Magazine
  • Sally Morrison - 2018 GEM Award for Lifetime Achievement
  • Danielle Miele - Gem Gossip
  • Becky Stone - Diamonds in the Library
  • Aleah Arundale - Jewelers Helping Jewelers Facebook Group
  • Tiffany Stevens - CEO of Jewelers Vigilance Committee
  • Beth Bernstein - Bejeweled Magazine & Plan B Consulting
  • Brother Wolf Jewelry
  • Anish Desai - Star Gems & Custom Studio
  • Andie Weinman - CEO of Preferred Jewelers International
  • Brian Watkins - CEO of Ritani
  • Jimmy DeGroot - The Jewelry Marketing Guy & Jewelry Store Training
  • Embee Diamond Technologies - Sirius Star The World’s Brightest Diamond
  • Laura Stanley - Cutting The Esperanza Diamond At Stanley Jewelers Gemologist
  • Mike Botha - Cutting The Esperanza Diamond – Embee Diamond Technologies
  • Diane Robinson - Rough To Runway Huntress Jewelry Designer
  • Todd Reed - Raw Elegance Jewelry Designer
  • Pamela Froman - Get Crushed Jewelry Designer
  • Ron LeBlanc - The Gem Hunter Chronicles of Tanzania
  • Victoria Gomelsky - Editor-In-Chief of JCK Magazine
  • Linda Carlson - Author of “Advertising with Small Budgets for Big Results”
  • Matthew Perosi - CEO of Jewelers Website Advisory Group & Sapphire Collaborative
  • Ron LeBlanc of “Gem Hunt” on the Travel Channel Network
  • Marty Hurwitz - CEO of MVI Marketing
  • Live From JCK Talks 2015 Education Day
  • Trace Shelton - INDESIGN Magazine Editor-In-Chief
  • Peg Fitzpatrick - “The Art of Social Media: Power Tips for Power Users”
  • Jon Parker - DJP Executive Jewelry Search Consultant
  • Barbara Palumbo - Gumuchian Jewelry and Adornmentality.com Blog
  • Bryan Eisenberg - “Waiting for Your Cat to Bark? Persuading Customers When They Ignore Marketing”
  • Bryan Eisenberg - IdealSpot.com, “Buyer Legends. The Executive’s Storytelling Guide”
  • Paco Underhill - “What Women Want. The Science of Female Shopping”
  • Live from the JA New York Summer show
  • Rob Bates - Senior Editor of JCK Magazine
  • Laura Stanley of Stanley Jewelers Gemologist - AGS International Guild, Women’s Jewelry Assoc, & Jewelers for Children Charity
  • Chuck Goedtke - President of Swiss Brands, Inc - Internet Discounting & Do You Really Need To Carry Watches?
  • Matthew Tratner - Director of Membership and Sales for Jewelers of America
  • Michelle Graff of National Jeweler - Brands vs Non Brands, Jewelry With A Cause, & 10x Blog
  • Matt Stuller - Legendary C.E.O. of Stuller Inc
  • Interview with Doug Meadows of David Douglas Jewelers
  • Launching “Inside the Jewelry Trade” Online Radio Show

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